भारत में लड़कियों को हमेशा आंका और दोषी ठहराया जाता है। “मुझे इस तरह की लड़की पसंद नहीं है, वह लड़की गलत है”। “मेरे बेटों को फसाया”, “उसने मेरे भाई को बदल दिया”.
एक दिन घर में मेहर ने अपने कुछ ऑफिस में काम करने वाले और दोस्तो को बुलाया था। अचानक से उसकी ननद आयी और सबके सामने मेहर को भला बुरा बोलने लगी। मेहर की एक दोस्त ने आगे बढ़कर समझाने की कोशिश की तो बात और बढ़ गई।
इस बीच मेहर का पति घर आया और उसने सबकुछ अपनी आंखो से देखा। मेहर के पति आशीष ने अपनी बहन को रोकने की कोशश की तो बहन ने इल्ज़ाम लगा दिया कि भाई एक पराई लड़की का साथ दे रहा है और दूसरो के सामने अपने परिवार वाले को जलील कर रहा है।
बात इतनी बढ़ गई कि घर के दूसरे लोगो को रोकना पड़ा।
सभा बैठी सास की और सास ने अपनी बेटी को बिना सुने ही बेकसूर बता दिया।
मेहर पर इल्ज़ाम लगाते हुए बोली कि तुमको बर्दास्त कर लेना चाहिए।
कुछ दिन बाद , तलाकशुदा मौसी मिलने घर आई वत सावित्री व्रत के उपलक्ष में आते ही पहले एक व्यंग्यात्मक लहजे में टिप्पणी की अपनी बहन से “मैंने सुना है कि आपकी बहू जहाँ भी जाती है, सिंदूर लगाती है”।
उस चाची को जवाब देने का मन किया मेहर का “आप दो चुटकी सिंदूर की कीमत के बारे में क्या जानते हैं, बहुत प्यार बस्ता है इसमें।” और जो मेहर को जज करने में व्यस्त था, उसने उसे एक दर्पण देने के बारे में सोचा। यह सभी चाची और रिश्तेदारों द्वारा आरोप लगाने के लिए बहुत आसान है जो एक दुल्हन को जज करने के लिए हैं। सबसे दुखद बात यह है कि यह स्वीकार करना कि लड़की अब उनके परिवार का हिस्सा है। महिलाएं एक लड़की का स्वागत करने के बजाय एक-दूसरे से नफरत करती हैं, वे सिर्फ मानसिक रूप से परेशान करने और उसका जिना दूभर करने की योजना बनाते हैं।
क्या आपको लगता है कि मेहर को बर्दास्त कर लेना चाहिए जैसे उसकी सास ने बोला या फिर आवाज़ उठानी चाहिए।
It was a beautiful morning, spring is approaching. Though it’s still cold in Shanghai yet everyone is getting ready for their office.
Shanghai, is the biggest city in China and the global business hub. Many big and small businesses run over there. People from different countries, villages, small towns and cities migrate to Shanghai in the search of work. A showpiece “Shanghai” is an example of booming industries of China.
Living in Shanghai has always been romanticised and another romantic story was about to start. The air was fresh, blowing romantically.
Jack Chen, a handsome and charming young boy who also lives in Shanghai is also getting ready for his office like all the other days. He stepped out of his house and walked towards his office. He was leaves nearby his office. He wants to earn lots of money and start his own business soon. He works hard every day and in the spare time, he loves to devote his time in personality development. He is a fun-loving guy and a helpful lad but still single in search of a right partner.
Today, as usual after marking his attendance he grabbed a cup of coffee and sat down on a chair in the pantry and kept reading something and scrolling down his messages on wechat.
Suddenly he heard the beautiful voice of a girl and looked up coming out from his mobile screen.
Girl: Can I sit next to you? (She pointed towards a chair lying beside Jack, all the chairs were occupied and that was only vacated).
Jack: (Hesitated and then stood up to great) Yes, of course, you can!
The girl liked the chivalry of Jack and sat with a smile. She initiated the conversation with Jack.
Girl:My name is Taurus, so you will work on the sales team?
Jack:Hello Taurus! It’s a unique and beautiful name, I work with the International sales team.
They continued to talk and after they finished the coffee left the pantry. When they walked by, Taurus giggled and laughed at Jack’s jokes and both exchanged their numbers.
They started to like each other’s company and spend time more time together.
One day, while they were talking, Taurus suddenly asked Jack:
Taurus: Why are you still single? Why you don’t find a girl for yourself?
Jack: Why I will find another girl for myself when I have you if you like, we can know each other far better.
Jack smiled and pulled Taurus closer, her hands tingled when he grabbed.
Taurus: Nice lines! Sure, we can do that.
Days passed and holidays started for Qingming festival, Taurus and Jack went shopping, watched movies, played games together. Jack realised more and more that she is the soul-mate. He thought to get propose her.
Already it was late evening they headed towards home. Jack dropped Taurus at her home but then he parked his car a little far from her home. He wanted to walk with her, it was drizzling, both started to walk. Jack grabbed Taurus’s hand and they both walked silently. Suddenly Jack stopped and said,
Jack: The way I feel now, I never felt before. I am the happiest person when I am with you. I always keep thinking about us all the time.
So will you, many years from now still hold my hands in yours and walk with me in all the phases of life? Will you marry me?
Taurus: (whispered) You are the one I can think about, you are very gentleman with a great sense of humour. She giggled and continued, ” I like your sun sign as well, I read somewhere a Piscean can be an ideal life partner. I love you! I will marry you!
After some time, Jack decided to start his own business, Taurus supported her. They both started their own business. They travelled to different parts of Asia for business and leisure. Soon after they returned from Thailand, they got engaged.
A few days later, Taurus discovered that she is pregnant. They went to the Philippines for photo-shoot.
While Jack and Taurus were looking at the sky holding hands, Jack said:
Jack: I am the happiest person on Earth today, and I will keep you always happy. I promise you, my fiancee, I will take you to all coasts of the world.
They soon got married and now they are expecting the baby in August.
All my best wishes to Jack and Taurus for their beautiful journey of life!!
Let’s forget about the virus, politics, problems for some time. Let’s focus on the most important scenario, we all are getting bored.
Every day I travel to my current working space, i.e. kitchen and then move to the other station which is my sofa where I sit and work. This is my life, sometimes I get so bored and feel the urge to go out like before, get back to normal life and that makes me restless. What actually makes me forget my restlessness is food and watching movies or shows. So after watching all the shows over Netflix, Amazon Prime, I have now decided to watch a few movies and rejuvenate my memories and time when I did watch them. I am trying to understand and compare how I felt after watching the movie then and now.
For example, I started with watching a movie Nilkamal, when I was a kid maybe 8-9 years old, my parents were watching it on Doordarshan so I recalled that I always wanted to watch that movie because it’s a horror movie so now’s the time, however, after watching this classic movie, I can say the dialogues were so cheesy then, the ghost was unable to scare me, but the in-law’s behaviour is still same.
So based on my experience, I am sharing the list of movies I liked to watch again:
1. 3 Idiots
This movie was released in 2009, I was a college student then and I remember that this movie was a birthday party-treat by my friend. So this movie enacts the parallel drama of the present and past of three students. I did love watching this movie and can watch it again and again.
Even our life is out of control now, so I want to blow the whistle and say ” Aaalll..is well…!!”.
2. Zindagi na Milegi dobara
This is a 2011 movie, 3 childhood friends reunited for a trip, I do relate to it because of my childhood friend, “Twinkle” wants to plan a trip to Goa just every month, but some or the other way, it always gets cancelled. We are so busy every time, we earn and spend, we wake up and go to the office, even my dreams are often hindered by my MD asking about the sales target I achieved this month.
It’s a 2012 film, all the actors did justice to the character they played. A comedy-drama film and how beautifully this movie plays with emotions, at one point it makes you laugh and suddenly makes you cry or sad. This movie has taught us so many lessons of life.
I was in school when the movie came with a bang of spicy and romantic songs, while loved to dance and watch the dance “Beedi”, on the other, I used to get romantic with my imaginary lover on the romantic track ” din doobe na”.
Even now I loved the acting of Saif Ali Khan and Vivek Oberoi.
I watched the movie on Netflix with my parents, loved everything about this movie. I think you will agree with my point. This action-packed movie was released in 2015.
6. Bahubali-The conclusion
The sequel was released in 2017, this time the movie had more romance along with the action scenes. However, I liked the first part more.
7. Udta Punjab
This movie got leaked before its release, it was banned in many states. You must watch this movie, four parallel tracks and lives revolving around one factor. Too good acting of Shahid and Alia loved to watch this again.
8. Kabhi Khushi kabhi gam
I loved to watch the melodramatic movie, K3G, I was a child when the movie released but now I know why I loved watching this movie 😝
9. Ye Jawani hai Diwali
I recently watched this movie on Netflix, I want to go out for a trip that’s my feeling.
10. 1920-Horror movie
I loved the acting of Adah Sharma, in this movie. I don’t why, I have watched this movie so many times but still, I love to watch it. Even it seems scarier and sometimes funny to me than Grudge-franchise or Conjuring.
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In this cruel society, one can always be a victim, the society wants the girl to understand and keep their mouth shut to show regards when the in-laws fat-shame, pass brutal comments about features and looks, above all they won’t even spare the parents of the girl.
They love to criticize the girl in front of her husband and family members despite rectifying their own shortcomings.
Alia and Ranbir married each other, both started a new and happy life but Ranbir’s mother always kept on body-shaming Alia and used to curse both of them.
Alia is a beautiful and chubby girl, she is very fair with flawless skin but she is on the heavier side despite being so beautiful, one demerit of her life gives her in-laws a chance to despise her.
Alia often gets upset and this is nothing new, even before her marriage her mother-in-law made fun of her:
She kept on asking her son “What did you see in her”?
Ranbir always listened to his silently because whenever he tried to support his wife, it made things more difficult and the discussion turned into an argument.
Their behaviour was very irritating and it was difficult for Alia to accept this criticism. She got frustrated and started to get depressed.
She wanted to say to her mother-in-law that in-spite of hurting others she should invest time for her family’s betterment.
The society wants the girl to let go of all this criticism, teasing, mental harassment, demeaning statements but it’s actually not as easy:
It shakes the confidence
One gets demotivated
This leads to depression and it can be dangerous.
People don’t forget criticism or this kind of comments easily. According to experts, it takes years to let go of such comments.
Alia’s in-laws are a real example that Indian society can never come out of it. Though many families have learnt to respect and treat their daughter-in-law as their own daughters, the majority love to humiliate and offend.
Many girls and women commit suicide because of being body shamed and criticised by society, family and friends.
Every day her in-laws criticised her, by talking about her attributes, body, commenting on her parents.
Alia tried to forgive and forget as society demands from an ideal Indian wife and daughter-in-law. They kept on taunting her on everything possible. Even if Ranbir makes any mistake or fights with any family member they eventually blamed Alia.
Even after three years of marriage, nothing’s changed. During a festival, the entire family gathered to stay together where the mother & daughter kept taunting Alia, on the second day while they were commenting on her, she ultimately lost her temper and protested. Seeing her hitting back her in-laws were taken aback and they upped their vitriol. This let to a major verbal escalation and the entire family got dragged into it. Seeing her wife being flanked, Ranbir started supporting her wife. This led to a situation of Pandora’s box being opened up and every other issue started churning.
The end of this fight was not in sight. Ranbir, seeing this is never gonna end turned to his wife and parents to stop this. To this, Alia expressed her deep displeasure that she has been tolerating this pain for a long while now and again a fight ensued between Ranbir and Alia. Seeing the tides changing his mother and sister started taking Ranbir’s side, giving him the sense that this is going a different trajectory. Now, he was literally irritated and wanted this to stop at once, and in that heat slapped his wife.
Alia ran towards her room weeping profusely. She locked her room and kept on weeping. The agony, the pain, the disdain, the contempt, was overwhelming for her. She couldn’t take this anymore and thoughts started coming into her mind. It’s like all of those incidents were taking a rewind, converting her anger into revenge.
As usual, her alarm bell rang sharply at 6 a.m. waking her up from her thoughts, long before any family member does. She started her daily household chores and in the afternoon she went to the market to buy groceries as usual, the thought of revenge not yet faded.
She went straight to a store to buy insecticides tucked it deeply in her pants safely and went straight towards home.
She came back, her throat dry, she took a glass of water, her hands were shaking, went back to her room, looking constantly at the packet of insecticide.