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Read this if you are getting Squeezed in a bad job.

I am writing this blog to share my learnings I experienced after grabbing an opportunity from a pathetic company. Hence I would like you to know while job-hopping.

I worked in a company for almost 36 days and on the very first day, I got to know that I made a blunder opting for it even after having two offers in my hand.

Key points to research :

  • Online search: Surf glass door /indeed for reviews and ratings.
  • Search on Social media: Search company’s page on Facebook and also hunt people on Facebook/Linkedin. The more employees you find working with that company the more you can understand the strength of the company.
  • Don’t entirely rely on the company’s website: You will find many companies with an attractive and promising website though the reality is quite the opposite.
  • Take a tour of the company: The first and important lesson I learnt was on the first day itself. The day I joined I witnessed that the company was missing all the basic facilities and then I realized that at least I should have noticed before.
  • Check your offer letter: Thoroughly go through the offer letter, your salary annexure, designation and columns mentioned.
  • Clear your doubts: Before you join, be clear with the HR policies, payday and other facilities. Don’t trust the rosy pictures that are shown to you, neither rely on the imaginary projects.
  • Take feedback from employees: After I joined and interacted with the employees I learnt that they have no fixed pay-day and they are paid after a month and half of their work or even later. They need to plead for their salary even.
  • Working environment: Though it’s not possible to judge the organisational environment and judging the satisfactory level of employees on a single day or even after a couple of rounds of the interview still give a try.
  • Sign after reading documents: Read your offer letter, appointment letter or any other documents carefully and then sign it. Companies contract and clauses are mostly one-sided be careful.

I hope you do agree with my learnings do share if you have more opinion.

Be safe & happy because you are precious!

Also, read :

https://milifeyourelate.wordpress.com/2019/05/07/pillars-of-successful-love-relationship/

https://milifeyourelate.wordpress.com/2019/05/12/when-life-gives-you-lemons-sour-lemons/

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How to handle life problems

We face so many challenges in our life as the graph of the journey of our life never goes at the same pace.We see the downfall and we struggle to lift ourselves. Life is full of drama and emotions, the same you experience while watching Game of Thrones😉What motivates us is our responsibilities, willingness to fulfil our dreams, optimistic attitude.We are at the age, where we are struggling in personal & professional life. Nothing goes smooth, when we try to balance our personal life, our professional life suffers and visa versa. We are not experienced in handling all situation hence when we try to keep everything in place all seems to get Jumbled & jolted up.Factors when we can make lemonade from the lemons life gifts us :1. Try to be happy: This is the most important factor when we are happy we ignore many silly things and handle the issues lightly. Our brain responds to give better and quick solutions to it.2. Remove Negativity: A negative mind is most dangerous and it tends to be highly self-destructive. A negative mind forces you to think worse of any person, circumstances and creates trouble. The human brain is more sensitive over bad things, when something ill happens to us we mourn, we mourn for our heart-breaks, job-stops and multiple issues however when we are happy our brain doesn’t enjoy the gala time for long.Hence when we are upset with something/somebody we tend to release toxins and start assuming situations which might not happen, we stay more unhappy.3. Be creative: Enhance your creativity, do something which you ever wanted to learn or do. Start painting, swimming, dancing etc…4. Start hitting the gym or Zumba : Thirty minutes of walk on a treadmill removes depression. When you return after the gym you will yourself feel relaxed, energised or you will be so tired that you will instantly fall asleep.😴5. Build a network: Make more friends, I will suggest building your strong bond with existing & close friends, the friends whom you trust & are always there for you will make you feel more secure. Play games with them, go for outing, shopping, chill at your place & keep yourself busy.6. Stop discussing the matters that make you upset :I would rather suggest you not to discuss your problems with everyone, people generally don’t like to hear others, they listen to gather gossip and pass the information to others. Only the closest friend of your’s will understand your problem. Discussing the issues will only make you sad it never brings happiness or gives you a solution. After a certain age, we must stop sharing problems with our family even when you know that it will only make you pare worry nothing else will come out of it. So once you feel that you are feeling lightly hearted after you shared your problems stop crying over the same.7. Work on your maturity level: I have seen so many people old enough but highly immature. That kind of person never turns up to be an example for others.8. Be your own counsellor: The best part to end this blog with the most important ingredient to prepare this lemonade is this point.Always motivate yourself, try to understand your mission & visions, effects & circumstances of the steps you take. Think before you act & ask yourself how would you feel if this is done to you.Let me know if the suggestions helped you in any way, share your experiences with us in the comment section.Stay safe & happy, because you are precious….!!

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Things to do for a happy Relationship.

When I look back to this more than a decade-long journey of my relationship. I realise how I built and managed to create this beautiful story of my life is a lesson in itself. Trust me, my life was once miserable and dark, I faced heartbreak, got depressed, tried to move on. I am a normal girl like you and we all face these situations, sometimes I wish to have a guardian angel to show me the right path in my love life.

At one point in my life, I had broken up with my boyfriend who soon is going to be my husband. Things became better between us after each fight when we thought it would end.

I also want you to know the magical spells that helped me to maintain this successful relationship.

We started our relationship when we were teens and now we are grown up, matured and independent, when I look back to our journey there were so many things which made us overcome all these obstacles that bring it to an end.

My advice might help some married couples or the unmarried ones and believe me, my suggestions are based on real-life experiences.

I say these are the miracle of our Successful Love Relationship.

1. Choose right partner: I agree, love is not calculation, love just happens and it’s magical. We fall in love suddenly and unknowingly But when it really comes to picking your partner for this long journey, it’s very important for us to judge and observe. We have flaws and nobody is perfect in this world but what matters, is when you realise that the other person is ready to change for you and you are willingly changing your nature for him/her. Trust me, our heart is no fool, the inner soul can identify the right person for us.

Here are the BASIC check through which one can find out if one’s partner is the right person or not

  • He treats you and respects you
  • He makes you feel special and is ready to cut ties with exes.
  • The eagerness to meet you and talk to you.
  • He is focused on his career and you believe that he is going to be the matured, stable and understanding partner for you to give you a balanced and satisfying life.
  • He loves his family and knows his responsibilities, trusts me if your partner doesn’t love his family & then the commitment in this new relationship will always be questionable. If a person can leave his family for you, he can leave you for any other reason as well.
  • The efforts that your partner makes to be with you and keeps you happy, realizes his love towards you and I tell you less expressive partner is more loyal.

2. Understanding your partner: This is one of the strongest pillars without which your relationship can never breathe. Understanding and respecting your partner’s needs & desires is utmost important.

  • Understand your partner’s mood and react accordingly. All couples fight, but if we can really figure out the basic reason for the fight, it gives a sense of comfort to both.
  • Understand your partner’s ambition, goals and have faith is what helps both of us to gain a peaceful life.

There come various phases where we go through a financial crunch, family problems, career issues and it’s the time when you stand together. There were times when my partner and I faced difficulties in all other aspects and we lived upon each other with a hope to get the peace of mind.
This is the phase when our warmth and comfort holds the relationship and makes the bond even stronger.

*Later you can make your partner realise his mistakes and behaviour once the situation is managed and your partner is ready to listen 😀

3. Caring: This world is full of opportunist, troubles and worries, your care is what eases the inner child in your partner. Your partner irrespective of their genders loves to care, pampered and loved.

Mark my words, even simple touch of care can leave a long-lasting impact and your partner will crave for this for the rest of their life from you and only you.

Preparing a favourite dish or surprising your partner with silly gifts is always a romantic idea.

Make your partner feel special and trying to keep them happy going beyond your comfort is love.

4. Never compare your life with others: Never ever in your life think about other’s love life or discuss another person in an unhealthy way. Every story is different, you are much happier than many other unsuccessful love stories.

Try to be happy with what you have and how your life is.

Patience: “Patience is the key to success”, indeed it is, many relationships fail because we lack patience in our life. We are not ready to compromise, understand the responsibilities, our expectations are high and the present scenario doesn’t match.

Think once maybe this is the phase where the burden seems to be heavy but will your life be happy and settled after you quit?

Is your relationship harming your self-esteem or you are afraid to fulfil your responsibilities?

You will get your own answer, in my case patience is the key factor which is why we are together.

Thanks for reading my first blog, your suggestions are appreciated and I think I will come with another topic in my next blog something which is very common in our life.

Why don’t you suggest something in the comment section…..

Stay happy & cherish your life because you are precious … !!